In our culture there is a strange but unfortunately common belief that we should deal with everything ourselves. And at the same time, humanity could have gone so far in the development of civilization, because we can all benefit to a greater or lesser extent from the achievements of many generations, and the feeling that we owe something only to ourselves is very illusory. Undoubtedly, our determination, abilities, way of functioning and experiencing have a significant impact on our lives. However, it always happens in relation to the world around us, and in particular in relation to another person. It is related to the ability to reach out to the environment and satisfy one's various needs, as well as give and enable the satisfaction of the needs of others. In order for us to live fully we need replacement; thoughts, feelings, energy, goods and abilities. We need the feeling that we and what we do is important. We want to see ourselves in other eyes and get feedback that we are seen and how someone perceives us. It is at the border between what is me and what is my environment, what belongs to me, is within my control, and what is not, what is outside of it, comes into contact with life. The way in which I create this contact, what my boundaries are, what I am aware of my needs, the ability to satisfy them, and the ability to end the exchange and absorb the experiences that flow from it, influence my functioning in the world. So this paradigm that I have to deal with everything myself is essentially dysfunctional and leads to a disturbance of the natural and spontaneous exchange with the surrounding world, leading to isolation, a feeling of loneliness and closing us in the already known but not functioning in our favor. behavior patterns.

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However, many people from reaching for therapeutic help are restrained by the fear that it will be a sign of their weakness, that they have failed, that there is something wrong with him. Meanwhile, it is precisely reaching for help that is a proof of courage and maturity, because it requires the ability to accept that I cannot cope with a given situation alone / alone and to be ready to reveal myself to another person as / as / as I am, but also to see myself / myself realistically, with what I like about myself and with what I do not accept; and thus also your aggression, envy, aversion to others, helplessness or fear of rejection.